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ọgwụ obala.

ọgwụ obala.

This is a healthy meal. In place of boiled yam yiu can add boiled fresh corn and mix. Add a little salt to the corn while boiling and yes, remove from the cob. Fresh ogili is a key ingredient in this. Add it to vegetables, add ukpaka, add the small anara, fresh pepper...

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The musings of a resilient widow!

The musings of a resilient widow!

Returning home after being away for about 12 months, I didn't expect not to have maintenance issues. I expected it! I came home prepared but not prepared for the idiosyncrasies of some of the workmen. The building had electrical, plumbing and other issues. Two...

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Memories

Memories

Memories! 11 days after my 23rd birthday! I still have that pearl set! Pure exclusive real pearl! Ndi Enugwu ukwu came to my father’s house for introduction and to pay dowry and they were asked to only do the introduction and return for dowry another day. My family...

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A young girl.

A young girl.

As a young girl while awaiting university admission, I spent months with my uncle and his family in Aba. My uncle was the Area manager of Savannah Bank in those days!! I remember vividly that this was in 1990-1991 and that house was at Ekenna Avenue, GRA Aba. I can...

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A short discourse.

A short discourse.

If God blessed you with the anointing to be relevant, you don't have to play it down or explain it to anyone. And don't expect everyone to be in alignment with you. Be sure that some will find shovel and digger to go into your so-called past to bring to surface that...

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Danny’s diary

Danny’s diary

Daniella: God made me special Me: yes, who told you. Daniella: Pastor Caroline. She told me that when I was born, I was in the hospital and wasn’t talking and eating and sleeping. Me: Yes, you have an album and my book kept for you. When you grow you have them and...

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A short discourse

A short discourse

I wonder what would make someone dim her light so as not to be offensive. Could it be that the person never ever wanted the light to shine ? I wonder why one would dim her light just because someone whose only exposure is to darkness isn’t comfortable with your light?...

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Danny’s diary.

Danny’s diary.

10 pm on 9/17/2019, just as we got home from prayer meeting, the following exchange took place: Me: Daniella do you really want us to have a bath? It's cold. Daniella : yes Mummy, we must bathe to be clean. Me: can we use the wash/bath cloth? We have enough to last...

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Danny’s diary.

Danny’s diary.

6.02 am Me: DanyBusky, it's time to get ready for school. Daniella: Mummyyyyyyyyy, I slept too much. Me: I did too but I woke up by 4 am to join Dunamis and it's still on. Let's be fast so I go back. Daniella: it's my turn to pray, let's pray Mummy. Me: OK though I...

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Widowed not withered!

Widowed not withered!

My dear widowed friend, there are relationships you must not be part of. Those people that cut you off might not be just because they wanted to cut you off but because God made them cut you off, that way you go on this journey with less baggage, become less dependent,...

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Widowed not Withered!

Widowed not Withered!

"Your father is dead now, you are our father and the man now and you have to do what you have to do to take care of the family." Now, this Statement isn't followed up with defining 'do what you have to do.' It's an open-ended and ambiguous phrase. These children also...

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Danny’s diary.

Danny’s diary.

Danny’s diary Yesterday as I dressed her up for church. Daniella: Mummy , I like my dress. (Hugs me) I love you Mummy, you’re a good Mummy. Me: Thank you so much for liking it. When I am coming again to visit you, I will get more for you. Daniella: (points at a...

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Danny’s diary

Danny’s diary

While waiting for the school bus to pull up the following conversation ensued. ME: Daniella, do you have anything to say to me? Daniella: Yes, I love you. I will miss you. Me: Awwwwww!! I love you too and will miss you. But I have alot of writing to do. Thank God we...

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Dany’s diary, in memory of 9/11.

Dany’s diary, in memory of 9/11.

As I dressed her up this morning in red top and navy blue pants we had a chat. I explained to her the reason they were asked to wear either white, red or blue top to mark today. I explained to her what happened on September 11th, 2001. Me: your school is honoring the...

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Widowed not withered

Widowed not withered

It is a long read that’s a year old but you can read to the end. Each time I go out to the mission field and return, I become more grateful to God. I meet widows who are unable to pay for proper medical treatment and rather buy from Patent medicine dealers even...

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Danny’s diary!

Danny’s diary!

Daniella told Aunt Ify and I that she’s searching for a job. We were both startled and asked simultaneously what she needed the job for. Daniella: I want to get a job and work and make money to give good things to the widows in Enugu. I want them to be happy. Some of...

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A Lesson from Roben Island!

A Lesson from Roben Island!

I spent most of the day in bed, exhausted and drained from the sadness I felt from videos and photos of the violence in South Africa Thant came up in my Facebook memory. Sadness enveloped me temporarily. I asked myself what Nelson Mandela would be thinking and feeling...

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Danny’s diary!

Danny’s diary!

Daniella: mom please I want to change my job. I want to be an animal doctor. Me: I will soon stop you from watching animal channel. Animal doctor with onye? Biko stick with being a nurse nu. Daniella: . You’re a lawyer mom? I don’t like that! Me: why? Inukwa?...

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Stay focused!

Stay focused!

From my place of hibernation, I bring you this!!! Ezra Chapters 4-6 were my study chapters this morning. If you have a spare moment, read those, then study the book of Nehemiah and then listen to Bishop Jakes's message of Saturday 26th August morning @ HOTR Lagos....

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Danny’s Diary

Danny’s Diary

For some days in the past week, I have experienced chest pain. It has been a pattern for some years and even made me go in for annual mammogram and X-ray while thinking it was my left breast that was being invaded. On 8/22/2020, I woke up to same kind of tearing pain,...

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Launch into the deep!

Launch into the deep!

Launch into the deep. The deep is fearful but launch in at his word and how do you know the word, withdraw and sit and study and listen. Yes you are washing your net after toiling all night and years. The word God speaks they are life and they are spirit. Which means...

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When God calls, he equips and rewards.

When God calls, he equips and rewards.

On NHN IG on Saturday night, I shared how my journey into this assignment began and how it’s been. Has it been all smooth and rosy all the way? No! Have I had moments I wanted to quit? Yes! Not once or twice! In 2008, when it became obvious that I would not escape...

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“Mom, I want to see animals.”

“Mom, I want to see animals.”

“Mom, I want to see animals.” Daniella: I want to go home to Enugu, mom when is the airport ready? Me: they will make an announcement and we leave. I also need to go home. Daniella: Mom, I need a vacation trip and I want to see animals too. Can we go and see animals?...

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What do you see?

What do you see?

In the midst of your turmoil and storm, what do you see? What you see determines how you will react or respond. While Pharoah ordered the death of children of Israeli origin, Moses’ mom had him and looked at him and saw a goodly child. She saw something in that child!...

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God takes care of his own!

God takes care of his own!

There arose a king who did not know Joseph nor the history of the children of Israel. He became king and saw the children of Israel all over in the land, flourishing. He became afraid that they will outgrow them, take over the land and even join forces with the...

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She keeps an eye on me

She keeps an eye on me

I left Daniella in the kitchen and came downstairs to write and review a report emailed to me by a mentee. Few minutes after she came halfway down and peeped. When I noticed she was peeping, I waved at her and she threw her first question at me. Daniella: mommy, how’s...

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I made a Choice

I made a Choice

This is one of my favorite photos. It was out of a photo shoot session to model for my dear friend and sister, NHN. This photo was taken when my mood was experiencing wild swings. One second I was ok and next minute I was back in gloom. But then during the shoot, I...

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Surrender All!

Surrender All!

These pictures were snapped 3 years ago at St. Mathias Anglican Church Enugu. This assignment was one of my toughest but in the midst of it, God gave me peace. I was invited to minister at their Parish Women Conference. Not just the conference but specifically to...

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Use those stones!!

Use those stones!!

They tell you you are ugly, fat, skinny, poor, uneducated, not well educated, local, Igbotic, unexposed, undignified, below their standards, don't fit into their social circle, and you allow the words to become your limitations???? They talk down on you!!! Some even...

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Daniella the matchmaker!

Daniella the matchmaker!

Daniella: mom, I wanna be a baby-sitter. Me: that’s not a bad idea, so tell me more about it please. What does a baby-sitter do? Daniella: I bathe the baby to go to sleep, I read a story for the baby, clean the mats, change the baby diapers, play with the baby and...

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Danny’s diary

Danny’s diary

Danny’s Diary. Daniella: mom you’re a blessing to me, I love you. God bless you. Me: thank you so much. I love you too. Me: (in my naughty mood) who else do you love? Daniella: I love sister Shishoooo, Coco, Aunty, Aunty Joy, my brother my brother, Aunty Udobi, I love...

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Marriage Musing

Marriage Musing

Marriage Musing Years ago, Mmili would order me to stay back in bed especially in the early hours of the mornings. I am an early riser and will get up and start moving up and down and at times cooking. He loved his early morning sleep a lot. I become restless once I...

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Find your path!

Find your path!

Find your path!  Embark on the journey! Stay focused on the path to avoid pot holes and sudden falls! Per chance you fall, don’t stay there!! Get back up and keep moving!! Nothing wrong in slowing down or pausing to nurse any wounds but don’t stay in permanent...

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A Short Discourse

A Short Discourse

One impediment to your happiness and blessings in this phase of your life is bitterness and unforgiveness. One pattern I noted in my many years of counseling widows, years before I became widowed was the worrisome pattern of widows holding bitterness and anger against...

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